my guitar skills are becoming pretty close to this song. (NOT)
Wiki Akward.
Thank you Senora Ruf for making me LOL. in reminding me that wikihow has answers for everything in life!
How to Avoid Making a Guy Feel Awkward
for kicks, let's review the list
#1 Be More Assertive.
You may have to be the leader for a little while, because most guys don't want to get themselves together just for you. So don't act uncomfortable or awkward--you'd better be pretty easygoing and comfortable if you're going to make this work. k, how are you suppose to be more assertive when you just sound like a tool?? okay, point taken though. easygoing and comfortable. sort of like sweatpants and the beach. got it.
#2 Have a normal conversation with him about topics that don't involve personal questions and girlfriend issues. Humor and physical contact also help people get more comfortable around each other. I can handle this, b/c typically I sincerely do not care about people's previous relationships. sure - i saw that other bitty, but whatev. k, so point for me b/c I didn't do this.
#3 Avoid clinging. If he doesn't like you, for your sake and his, drop it. It will make you seem desperate, and will only make the guy feel more awkward. So if you ask him why he doesn't talk to you and he brings up a lame excuse then that's a clue that he doesn't really like you. HA!! note to self, never ask a guy why he doesn't talk to me? WHO DOES THIS??? I mean I guess girls do, but I learned too much from He's Just Not That Into You to do a thing like that. if he is not talking to you it's because he doesn't want to. I mean HELLO, Senora Ruf 's hubby made her talk to him cause he was in looooooove. we'll have to re-visit the first line. perhaps another opportunity wiki - how to tell if he likes you.
#4 Move on if it doesn't work out. There are upwards of 3 billion guys out there, so the odds are in your favor. AHHHH. hope. there are upwards of 3 billion guys out there. word. wish somebody would do the math though on how many of those are lame jerks so I really know what the pool looks like.
#5 Avoid discussing topics such as menstruation, sex etc. I would NEVER!!!!!! it is mortifying to me when girls bring up stuff like this in mixed company. I also find it really awkward when I'm in a group of girls and there is one guy and the girls are just talking about girl stuff like tv shows or shopping. I don't know why but this makes me feel so weird. I had this conversation with my friends, apparently they don't feel like it's awkward, just me. I think it's cause I'm trying to be considerate and think I would be annoyed or feel uncomfortable if I was with a group of guys and they talked sports I didn't know and stuff. OH WAIT, this is probably because this happens to me routinely at work and travelling and it's super annoying.
#6 Don't give him too much attention - Don't expect him to lead the conversation, because he'll get bored. If it gets quiet, just talk about anything. Thanks Wiki. but you don't really explain what to do when your mind just flips upside down. when you literally feel like you can't form words into sentences. I need this addressed.
The best part of Wiki is how it gives you crazy related links. How to Be a Good Boyfriend, Be a Memorable First Date, Be a Good Prom Date, Fill Awkward Silences (maybe I'm going to this one next)
I also think it is funny how people are all about how difficult it is for guys to ask girls out, etc. I'm not doubting that, I mean all those formals and semi-formals I had to ask guys to attend. I mean that's a whole other post with the hyperventilation and all. but i'm just saying, it's not easy for shy girls like me!!!!
my friends said. Kristen, what if he finds this blog? He or anyone else that I have talked smack about on here. and I simply say, I don't write anything that I wouldn't be okay with the world or that person seeing. I just don't see why I should care?
I know, I am an odd bird.
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